Friday, July 21, 2006


The last couple of times I have been in the car I have heard Rhianna’s new song “Unfaithful”, which currently sits at #6 on the Billboard Hot 100. I don’t know how to put this gently so I am going to skip all artifice and just tell you that this song really pisses me off. Now when I say it pisses me off I mean it makes me really f-ing mad.

The song, for those of you who don’t know, is a real sad song about how this girl has a guy who she apparently loves but she can’t stop cheating on him. The chorus goes:
I don’t wanna do this anymore
I don’t wanna be the reason why
Every time I walk out the door
I see him die a little more inside
I don’t wanna hurt him anymore
I don’t wanna take away his life
I don’t wanna be…
A murderer
Then stop you dumb bitch!

I understand, though not condone, heat of the moment cheating, however I really do not get this premeditated crap. My single biggest problem when I am in a relationship, besides being a freak like me, is jealousy. The core of this jealousy is my generally low self-esteem and has been reinforced over the years by a few incidents of cheating.

At one point I was trying to get a girl to be my girlfriend and she refused, telling me that she cared about me too much and she knew she couldn’t trust herself not to screw around on me. At the time I didn’t get it and it kind of made me angry. Having grown a little since then I now understand what she was getting at and I can appreciate the heartache she saved me.

Here is how I see the situation:
  1. If you’re in love with the guy you are with then stop going out and giving it up to other guys.
  2. If you can’t grow up enough to stop going out and getting a piece of strange then you really don’t deserve someone who is going to wait at home for you and you should at least be a big enough person to admit it and then break up with him.
Regardless of what you do, grow up and don’t cry about feeling guilty.

Of course there is always the third option. If you’re in love with the guy you are with and you are going out to hook up with another girl then by all means bring her home. There is no need for guilt there.

Tags: Music


nikki said... come you don't get all offended about songs degrading women? so not fair.

James said...

Sorry, I don't feel like he's being degraded, I just feel like she is being whiney about something she has control over. If she was singing a song about how she burns herself every time she grabs soemthing in the oven I would be just as annoyed. Actually that's not true, I would make fun of her for being DUMB.

Suggest a song and I will see if it gets me spun up?